Tag: introvert

  • It’s Okay to Be an Introvert in College/University!

    It’s Okay to Be an Introvert in College/University!

    Some people love to be with others and to talk and laugh with them. They get their energy from being around people and enjoy going to parties and other events. These people are extroverts, and much of the world is designed for them. Even university and college can be easier for extroverts than for introverts, and introverts might be tempted to try to change their personality types to fit in. Still, university and college can be good even for introverts if they know how to get the best from their studies.

    People use the terms “extrovert” and “introvert” in somewhat different ways, depending on how they understand the words. An extrovert is not always sociable and an introvert is not always shy, but that is how many people think of the two personality types.

    The more accurate way to think of the difference between the two is that extroverts get their energy from being with people but introverts get their energy from being alone. Both might go to a party and have fun, but the extrovert will want to be with people afterwards while the introvert will probably want to be alone. They also process their thoughts differently. The extrovert might think something through by talking about it, but the introvert will normally think about it before speaking.

    Many university or college instructors seem to prefer extroverts over introverts. They often give marks for speaking up in class, and they assign group projects which require several people to work together to get their grade. This can be very difficult for introverts, who have a natural tendency to prefer listening rather than speaking and working on their own rather than working with others.

    However, introverts can still find ways to be successful at university or college. The first thing is to try to choose classes with limited requirements for group interaction if possible. Many introverts are good public speakers, and they can try to choose courses with individual presentations rather than a lot of group work. Even if working with others is impossible to avoid entirely, having at least one class that acknowledges the introverts’ strength of concentration and dedication can help make the others less stressful.

    Social life is another area that can cause a lot of anxiety for introverts. It might not be a good idea to avoid a social life entirely, but introverts can make it less stressful by choosing to go to one person’s home for supper rather than to a party or by limiting the amount of time they spend with others. Trying to be an extrovert will just cause stress that could badly affect an introvert’s grades and enjoyment of university or college.

    Are you an introvert? Post-secondary education might scare you, but if you make good choices about how and where to interact with others, you can make it work.

    Bibliography:

    English, Sarah. “Surviving University as an Introvert.” http://www.studentpowered.ca/surviving-university-as-an-introvert.

    Lawrence, Daina. “Seven Ways Universities Can Work for Introverted Students.” http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/national/education/7-ways-universities-can-work-for-introverted-students/article21186974/.

    Osterrieder, Anne. “How to Be an Introvert on Campus.” https://www.timeshighereducation.com/blog/how-be-introvert-campus.

    Robinson, Kerianne. “How to be an Introvert at University.” http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/karianne-robinson-/how-to-be-an-introvert-at-uni_b_9728776.html.

  • Introversion; It’s OK to Be an Introvert

    Introversion; It’s OK to Be an Introvert

    I’m often teased by those my own age for not going out to bars, parties, or nightclubs (I haven’t even set foot in a nightclub). I’m not a big drinker, I don’t smoke, and I’ve never tried weed. I’m basically the kid your parents want you to be friends with.

    Inevitably, this led to me to being called “no fun” or “boring” and I befriended less than ten people in university and even fewer during my years in high school. But, that’s the way I like it.

    Ah, the introverts; a not-so rare species of human beings who don’t like to go out and socialize as often as the extroverts. It’s bizarre for some to hear that a Friday night can just as easily be enjoyed watching a movie marathon at home than spending the night at a party. Crazy, I know.

    Contrary to popular belief, some lead great social lives (myself notwithstanding), but just need time alone to refuel after a long day or social event. And being shy and being introverted aren’t even considered to be the same thing by some psychologists.

    The silver lining to being introverted in university is that there is still plenty to do and get involved with. There should be tons of clubs and societies on your campus that will probably only meet once a week to discuss their plans, or how they want to go about hosting an event. You can meet up with them, socialize, make new friends, and be a part of something that interests you.

    If joining a club isn’t really your thing you can also form a study group. You guys can meet whenever you want to discuss material, bum ideas off one another, and later, go for drinks at your local pub.

    Clubs also host an assortment of events throughout the year that you’re more than welcome to attend with friends or even fly solo. If you’re lucky, some of the events offer free food so even if you do go alone you don’t have to deal with the much dreaded question of “Can I have some?” No you may not.

    Being introverted isn’t a bad thing. It’s nothing to be ashamed of. It gets a bad rap because our society pretty much consists of extroverts but that doesn’t make us any less valuable. It also doesn’t have to stop you from doing anything in university or prevent you from making friends. Taking the time to refuel for however long you need to, especially in university, is crucial for keeping yourself healthy without thinking you need to be everywhere all the time in order to make friends. Popularity contests ended in high school ( and should end altogether).

    Now, being shy and introverted is another story. I mean… let’s just say there’s a reason I’m such good friends with my dog.