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  • Reasons to Use Kids Help Phone

    Reasons to Use Kids Help Phone

    Kids Help Phone is a free, anonymous resource that is there for you 24/7. Its purpose is to give young people someone to talk to when they feel they have no one who will listen to them. It is important to know that there are people who care and want to help you with any problems you may have. Kids Help Phone has many uses – here are just a few.

    1) You need an objective opinion or want to ask questions anonymously.
    If you need to talk with someone who will listen to what you’re going through, and you don’t trust or want to speak to friends or family, then the Kids Help Phone is a great resource for you. Sometimes you don’t want the people closest to you to know what it is that you are feeling or thinking about. It may be because of a fear of losing their respect or simply of changing the image that they have of you. Whatever your reason, speaking with someone who is trained and knowledgeable on how to handle the information you will share with them is often a good option. When you call the Kids Help Phone you can rest assured that the information will remain confidential, unless it involves information that must be reported to the police (such as reporting a threat to your own or someone else’s life).

    2) You are undergoing a traumatic period in your life and would like support.
    Sometimes we suffer because of life’s circumstances, and in this case it is really important to talk with people about what you are going through. You may not want to talk with friends or family because you feel they may not understand, but with Kids Help Phone you can talk to a person who has been trained in dealing with emotional crises. They will be able to talk to you about relationships, sexuality, drugs and alcohol, eating disorders or anything else that you feel is affecting you.

    3) You want to speak with someone who will listen to you.
    Often in the hustle and bustle of everyday life, there is so much going on that we can feel ignored or that we don’t matter. It can be very hard to find someone who will just listen to what it is that you are going through. The time rarely comes up where you feel it is okay to pour out your soul, and because of this you can be left with some important issues bubbling just under the surface. It is important to “vent” and to talk about your life and what sorts of challenges you are facing.

    4) You need to report an incident.
    If you don’t feel comfortable speaking directly to the police or don’t know what to do after an incident, the people at Kids Help Phone will listen and help you to deal with the situation. This can range from bullying, an incident of physical or sexual abuse or a crime like theft.

    5) You are in a crisis and need to talk to someone as soon as possible.
    If you are feeling that you are in a crisis and are having thoughts of suicide, a counsellor at the Kids Help Phone will be a great person for you to speak with. They can help to “talk out” your problem and ensure that you get the assistance you require. Remember that you are never alone! Suicide is not the answer. Reach out to someone at Kids Help Phone and they will be there for you when you feel no one else is.

  • Talking About Mental Health

    Talking About Mental Health

    In the past few years, depression has reached epidemic levels. According to recent statistics by the Canadian Centre for Mental Health and Addiction (CAMH), “In any given year, one in five Canadians experiences a mental health or addiction problem.” This is a staggering number, and it’s very important to know the signs and symptoms. Mental illness still faces stigma and education can go on a long way in combating ignorance.

    Depression is a large problem for the whole population, but young people are especially at risk. The CAMH website states that, “70% of mental health problems have their onset during childhood or adolescence.”

    People suffering from depression need the support of friends and family, especially in the critical time of adolescence and the transition from high school to the workplace or postsecondary education. It’s important to learn the signs of depression, self-harm and suicidal thoughts. People with depression aren’t “lazy” or “looking for attention”, they have a psychiatric disorder.

    Signs of depression can be seen if you pay attention, even if the affected person is trying to hide it. The most prominent signs and symptoms are being tired more than usual, feelings of guilt, lack of interest in life and insomnia, just to name a few. They tend to socialize less and stop doing things they used to enjoy.

    People with depression may not want to discuss it, especially with the stigma that surrounds mental illness. It can be frustrating living with a depressed person, but its important to understand that they didn’t choose to feel this way, that they are suffering and it’s more difficult for them to handle.

    If you suspect that one of your family members or friends are depressed, it’s important to tell them you support them and they aren’t alone. Let them know how much they mean to you. Ask them what’s troubling them and listen carefully.

    There are several things that one should never say to a depressed person; these either do nothing or make things worse and should be avoided at all costs. This includes stuff like “get over yourself” or “you’re just looking for attention.” Saying that there is always someone worse off doesn’t help because depression can be caused by many factors. One person’s misfortune does not negate another’s.

    If they start to talk about death, give away their possessions for no reason, talk about self-harm and mention suicide in conversation, this is serious and it’s important to inform a doctor, counselor or psychiatrist immediately. Doing this could save someone’s life.

    If you or someone you know is depressed or suicidal there emergency lines to call that specialize in helping people with depression. Along with 911, you can call:

    Telehealth Ontario 1-866-797-0000

    Mental health services in Ontario 1-866-531-2600

    Telecare Distress Centre Brampton 
Ontario
 Hotline: +1 (905) 459 7777

    Telecare Distress Centre Etobicoke 
Ontario
Hotline: +1(416) 247-5426

    North Halton Distress Centre 
Ontario
 Hotline: +1 (905) 877-1211

    Distress Centres of Toronto 
Ontario
 Hotline: +1 (416) 408 4357

    Kid’s/Teen Help Phone 1-800-668-6868

  • What Is High School Really Like?

    What Is High School Really Like?

    For anyone starting high school, it can be an intimidating time. You’re suddenly in an environment where you’re not always surrounded by familiar faces and you have a lot more freedom. But not to worry – high school is one the best and most memorable times of your life.

    High school is the perfect opportunity to explore, meet new friends, figure out your interests and to figure out what you want to do as a career.

    Meeting New Friends
    If you’re starting high school with friends you already know from elementary school, try not to limit yourself to that clique. We all see the typical cliques in teen movies. The jocks, the cheerleaders, the nerds…but reality is not really like that. You can be a “jock” who is into academics or be an academic who is into sports. So be open to meeting new people. How do you go about doing this? You can meet new people in your classes. You will eventually have to work in preassigned groups on projects in classes, so this is the perfect time to get out of your comfort zone and get to know new people as you may be spending a lot of time together outside of class time. Take advantage of that time together; you may find you have a lot in common with them. You can also meet new people by joining clubs, extracurricular activities, joining sports teams and attending social events like dances and pep rallies.

    What are Your Interests?
    Maybe you weren’t as athletic in your elementary school but now you want to try out for the soccer or basketball team. It’s a great way to stay active and of course to meet new people that have similar interests as you. Maybe you’ve always been interested in music or pursuing acting. Join the school choir or drama club. Maybe you want to run for the school election or join a committee – it’s a great way to hone your leadership skills! Also, the best part about high school is that you can pick a lot of your own courses that you can choose based on your interests like Art, Drama, Music, Creative Writing and Media Studies, just to name a few.

    Choosing Your Career
    High school is the time to figure out what you want to take in your post-secondary education and to figure out what career path to take. Through your courses, you will figure out what your strengths are and what you’re most interested in. You have a lot of resources available to you to help figure out what you want to do. Teachers and guidance counselors can help guide you to the right path and assist you in the necessary steps to get there. Volunteer hours are now mandatory requirement for high school, so this is the perfect time to work in a field of your interest and to gain first-hand experience in your chosen industry. This experience also looks great on a resume if you’re looking to apply to a job. Maybe you want to become a teacher so you can volunteer at a school. You will gain valuable skills that you can use in the future.

    Your Social Life
    School is not all about work. You need to have some fun, and it’s all about balance. Take advantage of the social aspect of high school. Go to school trips, dances, and parties. You will most likely make friendships that will last a lifetime so take advantage of these opportunities. High school will go by in a flash, but these years will be the ones that you will always remember.

  • Deciding Where to Volunteer

    Deciding Where to Volunteer

    Like many students, you will need to acquire 40 hours of volunteer work before you are able to graduate. So where do you begin?

    When choosing the best place for you, there are a few considerations that you should keep in mind. The first thing to consider is location. Whether you are getting a ride from your parents, driving yourself or taking the bus, you are going to want to select a location that is convenient and accessible for you. You will want to choose something that will not be a headache to get to every time you have a shift because this could affect your attendance at your volunteer placement and potentially lead to an unfavorable outcome. By selecting a location that is convenient, you are that much closer to a successful volunteer placement.

    The next aspect to consider about your vounteer placement is the type of work that you will be doing and how the volunteering will benefit you. To find out more about the nature of the position you will apply for, you can check the company website or call the contact number and speak with someone directly. It is helpful if there is a position description that you can refer to, however keep in mind that this is not always the case. A description of the position will help you to identify if it is a good fit for your interests and skills. Choosing something that fits with your personality can help you to stay motivated and feel that you are doing a good job at your volunteer placement. This is a very fulfilling and rewarding feeling.

    In choosing a position, you may want to be adventurous and try something that you are not good at in the hopes that you might learn something new about yourself or develop a new skill. If you are choosing to be adventurous, be sure that you are being realistic about how much of a challenge the activity will be for you. Remember that you are looking for personal growth as well as looking to make a meaningful contribution to the organization that you are going to be volunteering with. Choosing something that is difficult but realistic in terms of the skills required is the best way to have a rewarding experience.

    By choosing a volunteer placement that is in a convenient location for you and that either fits your skills nicely or will present you with a reasonable challenge, you are setting yourself up for personal and professional growth. You can also look forward to a positive reference from your volunteer placement, providing you with an overall rewarding experience.

  • Managing School and Everyday Life

    Managing School and Everyday Life

    If you’re finding it hard to balance school and everyday life, you’re not alone. Many students find it hard to balance the demands of school, extracurricular activities, part-time work, family responsibilities and social demands.

    But it’s an important skill to acquire and one you will use for the rest of your life. Being able to prioritize your education, activities and responsibilities will help you maintain happiness now and into the future. Prioritizing will also help you remember what’s important and what goals you are working towards.

    Here are a few tips to help you on your way to becoming a more well-rounded, balanced individual:

    –          Create a schedule and stick to it. Write down everything you need to do on a calendar or in a day planner. Make note of class assignments and tests, practices, meetings, work hours, or specific tasks your family asked you to complete. For instance, if your mom asked you to mow the lawn on Saturday then book time to do it. This will ensure you have established time to get everything done. It will also help you realize if you have overextended yourself and don’t have enough time to complete all your tasks.

    –          Try and complete your daily home work as soon as you get home from school. You’ll still be in the school mind set and, by getting it done right away, you’ll have the evening free to relax and do something fun.

    –          If you can work while listening to music you should do it. Listening to music (on low) can make you work faster and make whatever it is you have to get done much more enjoyable.

    –          Don’t watch TV, text your friends, check Facebook and Twitter and clean out your email while you’re in the process of doing school assignments, household chore,s etc. If you do, you’ll seriously extend the amount of time it takes to get the job done.

    –          If you take the bus, use the time to read or review for a test. This will cut down on the amount of time you’ll have to spend doing homework. You could also do some during lunch or a free period.

    –          Make sure you are realistic about what you can accomplish in the run of a day. Set goals that are attainable. Successfully completing your “to-do list” each day will increase your confidence and alleviate negative thoughts and anxiety.

    –          Don’t over extend yourself with too many extracurricular activities. One person can’t complete all of their school work, be in a band, play soccer, rugby, basketball and volleyball, be on the student council and debate team, volunteer at the animal shelter, work part time at the grocery store, babysit their kid brother, go to the movies with their best friends and spend three hours a day talking to their boyfriend/girlfriend. Certain things need to be done, like school work and chores. Other things will help you get to where you want to be in the future. The rest of the stuff can wait until you have free time to enjoy them.

    –          Look for apps that can help you,  such as flash cards, organizing and scheduling apps, exercise/nutrition apps, scientific calculator apps, dictionary and thesaurus apps and a really annoying alarm that ensure you wake up on time.

    –          Be prepared. Get all of your stuff ready the night before. Get out your clothes for school. Make your lunch. Pack your uniform if you have an after school practice or if you have to work. Being prepared will make you less overwhelmed and more ready to take on the next day.

    The main thing is to stay organized and have a clear picture of what it is you are working towards. Sure, everyone wants to be able to do whatever they want whenever they want to, but sadly that just isn’t realistic. Try to remember what it really is you want to do, and if you find you’ve spread yourself too thin try talking to a parent or teacher. They may be able to help you review your schedule and see if there are areas you can cut back on or some activities you can cut out until your work load isn’t quite as heavy.

  • No More Recess!

    No More Recess!

    One of the biggest transitions from elementary school to junior high school is dealing with the fact that there’s no more recess. Instead, you have one period of lunch during the day and a series of classes. This is a pretty big change, and it’ll definitely take a while to get used to, but soon enough you’ll find yourself managing – I promise!

    One of the hardest parts about having no recess is finding time to spend with your friends. You and your best friends are going to have different class schedules and you might not have any classes with them. You might not even have the same lunch period! But don’t worry too much, because you can still work around this and find times to catch up with your buddies. You and your friends can plan ahead and meet up a few minutes before the beginning of the school day to hang out or just have a few minutes to talk. This is likely to put you in a good mood, which will make the rest of the day a lot more bearable. On the other hand, you can also plan to meet after the school day and walk home together. You can recount the events of the day and perhaps even go out for a snack to give you more time to spend together. You’ll definitely find a way to make it work!

    You’re probably used to grabbing a quick snack during recess to keep you going throughout the day. But with no more recess, you might be unsure of when to find time to grab a bite to eat. Luckily, some junior high and high school teachers actually allow you to eat snacks in class, as long as you’re quiet and clean up your mess later. But remember, this doesn’t apply to all teachers so make sure you ask your teachers at the beginning of the year how they feel about snacks. Don’t be afraid to approach them; I’m sure they’ve been asked the same question dozens of times before. Also, if you’re the type to eat really small and quick snacks you can also munch on your snack in between classes. Most schools give you 5 to 10 minutes to get from class to class. You can spend a minute or two eating a granola bar or even half a snack before hurrying off to class.

    Another major adjustment you’ll have to make is staying focused without a break. Some lunch breaks take place at the beginning or end of a day, which means you’ll have to endure several hours of class before you get a moment to yourself. You’ll have to take time to develop your own strategies but there are definitely some things that can help. For one, eating a big breakfast will help you get through the day. You’ll find it very difficult to focus on class when you’ve got a rumbling stomach. You can also help yourself to stay focused by drinking lots of water throughout the day because it has been scientifically proven to keep you more alert. One final tip is to make sure you’re well rested. It’s very difficult to retain information when you’re half asleep and dreaming of a warm bed.

    With these tips, you can make the transition from having recess to not having recess easier on yourself. Good luck!

  • Bullying Is Everyone’s Problem

    Bullying Is Everyone’s Problem

    There is no doubt that bullying is a problem which has been around for a long time – within all forms of human interaction, there have always been those that not only feel superior to others but feel the need to demonstrate this at any cost. Where bullying was once mostly confined to the schoolyard, now more and more children are plugged in to the internet. This has made the problem significantly worse, becoming more insidious, dangerous and sometimes even fatal.

    By now, most people will have heard about the B.C. girl who, having been relentlessly bullied for a number of years online, combined with her allegedly fragile state of mental health, felt it was necessary to end her own life. Sadly, she is certainly not the first to do this and will not be the last. While it is impossible to find any shred of positivity in the current situation, the fact is that social media allows more people to become aware of the severity of the problem. Although bullying will likely never be completely eliminated, this may lead to concrete measures being taken to severely diminish it over time.

    While it is obvious that the bully and the bullied are the central players, the problem of bullying is far-reaching, affecting family, friends, entire schools and workplaces. It is no surprise that the majority of people who are aware that some form of bullying is taking place are more likely to ignore it rather than take action. However, it is a fact that by becoming involved, whether simply standing up to the bully on behalf of the victim or making friends with the victim (who are often in great need of friends), the bully will think twice about his or her actions. Of course, this is not always the case and sometimes a greater degree of intervention is needed.

    The first step for anyone being bullied, or for those that suspect it is happening to someone, is to speak up. It is widely believed, particularly among kids, that ‘telling’ is akin to ‘tattling’ which is just not the case. The fear also may be that by telling someone they may inadvertently make the problem worse by angering the bully. While this is a genuine concern, it certainly should not be a reason to remain silent. Making bullying known through Facebook or some other form of social media may not always be the best idea as this can leave the victim open to even more abuse and torment from anonymous comments made by online bullies and ‘trolls’. Even if the victim is reluctant to speak up, they can still get support through one of the many anti-bullying organizations that exist online such as www.kidshelpphone.ca, www.pinkshirtday.ca and www.antibullying.net.

    While it is obviously the victim of bullying that requires the most immediate help, one shouldn’t forget that by letting them continue their behaviour, the bully’s future can also be put in jeopardy. It is rare that a bully simply bullies for the sake of it and by getting help early on they can avoid problems later in life. According to Free From Bullies, 60% of adults aged 18-24 who once bullied end up with criminal convictions, a fact that can have an effect on society and the economy as a whole.

    There is no simple solution to the problem of bullying and it is very sad that even adults who should know better can be just as guilty as children. The problem will not be stamped out overnight, but through talking, understanding and, most importantly, taking action, we can make small steps to fight back.

  • Gossiping Is Bad For You!

    Gossiping Is Bad For You!

    Gossip is something that is very prevalent in high school, generally due to all of the changes that people are going through. With any luck, gossiping will diminish as you grow up and move on with your life. It is a type of conversation that is not very productive in terms of creating positive change in communities, and in fact is often the source of a lot of unnecessary harm and pain.

    An interesting quote I read recently said: “Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, and small minds gossip about people. Life is much too short to be lived talking about people, gossiping, and stirring up trouble that has no substance. If you don’t understand someone, ask questions. If you don’t agree with them, tell them. But don’t judge them behind their back to everyone else” –Entrepreneur Secrets 2012.

    This quote draws attention to the fact that there are often conversations that you would rather avoid, because they are nothing but mean-spirited and a waste of time. I disagree with the quote because I think that there is a time and a place for gossip. Often talking about other people is a way of understanding the social world that we live in, which is just as important as understanding anything else. Sometimes not talking about other people is a mistake because you don’t have an opportunity to digest what another person is about. People are interesting, and talking about them is not always a waste of time. The linchpin is the intention that you have when talking about other people. If you are attacking someone out of mean-spiritedness and to gain power over that individual, you must be bored or looking to “stir trouble” like the quote above says.

    I agree with the above mentioned quote in how they draw attention to the fact that not understanding someone should bring you to asking more questions. This is really true, because most of the time other people are misunderstood simply for lack of information. This is not something to capitalize on with gossip, but rather an opportunity to learn more about something that you don’t understand. A popular old adage states “don’t hate what you don’t understand”.

    In school and work situations, there will always be times when people will say or do things that you don’t agree with. It is during these situations that it is healthy to vent about the outcome of a certain conversation or event. The distinction to be made, however, is between attacking someone’s character and attacking their words or behaviours. There are relevant points and there are irrelevant points when talking about other people. If you are trying to capture them as an individual with pros and cons, this is usually a better approach than trying to twist them into a character with only cons. Most people are not evil, so spreading rumors and creating a monster out of someone else is simply mean and counter-productive.

  • How to Pick a School that Works for You

    How to Pick a School that Works for You

    Deciding which post-secondary institution to attend is easily one of the most difficult decisions you may face in your lifetime. If you find yourself scattered and unsure of where to begin, just think of PED: Program, Environment, and Distance. This is a useful technique that can help you organize your thoughts and carefully lay out the important factors.

    Program: The very first thing you should do when picking a school is question whether they have the program that is right for you. A common mistake that students tend to make is to pick a school based on its overall reputation as opposed to the reputation of its programs. A school could be ranked at the top of all the major lists but that doesn’t necessarily mean that they’re the best for whatever program you intend on enrolling in. If you’re the type of person who refers to ranking lists, make sure these lists are program specific. If you can find a way to do so, talk to students who are actually enrolled in the programs you’re considering and discuss any concerns you may have. They’re likely to be very honest with you and you can get some insider-info that you won’t find in the fancy brochures.

    Environment: Believe it or not, your surroundings can have a major impact on how well you do in university or college. I’m the type of person who needs a refreshing walk when I get stressed so it was important for me to choose a school that had a beautiful campus. For some, old-style traditional buildings and scenic walkways will do the trick. For others, modern buildings and high-tech facilities are a must. Keep in mind that many schools have a good balance of both! Also take a look at the environment outside of the school’s campus and ask yourself if you’d prefer to be located in a big city or something with more of a suburban feel. If you plan on living off campus in upper years, this could be a bit of a deal-breaker for you.

    Distance: One of the most difficult things about going away for school is being away from your family and friends. If you’ve got tight-knit relationships, going too far away from your support system may be too much to handle. And that’s ok. You might not even have to leave home if you’d prefer to commute. However, if you’re determined to leave the nest you should always pause to consider how often you intend to visit home (if at all). If you’re making many trips, things can become quite costly if you live hours away from home. The important thing here is to speak to your parents or guardians and figure out a system that works best for everyone. Before you do this, though, have an honest think-session with yourself and decide what’s most important for you. If independence is key, be prepared to negotiate and do quite a bit of reassuring.

    Each school you consider is bound to have its pros and cons. The best you can do is weigh all of your options and choose a school that you’re most comfortable with. Others may input their opinions but the choice is ultimately yours to make!

  • Living Without a Salary – and Student Loans

    Living Without a Salary – and Student Loans

    Today my grandmother gave me a thick book entitled “How to Survive Without a Salary” by Charles Long.  The truth is that I’m employed, both as a writer and a barista at a coffee shop. With a career as a student and jobs that pivot around an education’s schedule, it’s pretty much impossible to predict long term income or complete financial stability anyway. My grandmother knows that despite the state of a person’s finances, tips on how to adopt what Long calls the “conserver lifestyle” are always good to consider.

    So let’s consider them. Long defines the term conserver lifestyle as “a means of coping better with what (one) already has.” Chapter one of his novel deals with internal factors preventing you from finding success in that regard. Chapter two is ‘Assessing Yourself: Making a Budget,’ which is definitely worth a look. You never want to be spending more than your wallet can handle, especially when, as students, there are some costs that can’t be evaded.

    According to Statistics Canada, Canadian student tuition fees alone averaged $5,777 in 2008-09, with Quebec’s $2,488 average the lowest and Ontario the highest at $8,797. But there are also “ancillary fees,” those compulsory extra charges over and above tuition to cover things like athletic programs, health services and student associations. These fees added an average of $695 more to the demands on a full-time Canadian undergrad in 2008-09, ranging from a low of $423 in New Brunswick to a high of $827 in Nova Scotia. Ancillary fees are usually unregulated, but you can often look into them on school websites and find opportunities to opt out of what you don’t need.

    We can all survive without a salary while we are students if we keep watch on costs and budget ourselves accordingly. Long claims that, “Costs are always more important than earnings – there is nearly always more advantage in reducing costs than in increasing earnings.”

    In order to be able to sustain yourself while you get an education with an unstable salary and all of these subsidiary costs to student life, several banks like RBC and TD Canada Trust have places for you to create your own budget lists on their websites. At the time the book was written, without widespread use of the Internet it was a bit tougher to budget. Today many student budget list templates can be found online as well. The Office of the Superintendent of Bankruptcy Canada’s student budget section is a good resource, at http://www.ic.gc.ca/eic/site/bsf-osb.nsf/eng/br01399.html.

    After the section on budgeting, Long gives eleven more chapters of detailed analyses on financial strategies, many of them useful. He says, “A penny saved is not a penny earned. A penny saved is a hell of a lot more than a penny earned today.” We know that simply by keeping our savings in the bank, they grow with interest. That can apply to scholarship money or bursaries that may be extractable for personal holding (OSAP, for example).

    Chapter six, on ‘The Second-Hand Market’, is my personal favourite, advocating the benefits of getting everything and anything used or pre-owned. Shopping in thrift stores doesn’t only help your wallet, but choosing to reuse can help our planet, too.

    I’m glad to have been given this book, and I’m now prepared to become more money-conscious. With sky high tuition costs and the absence of established careers at this point in our lives, it’s smart to consider advice from anyone.

    And where did my grandmother find this yellowing treasure? At Value Village, naturally.